top of page

Typical C bjk.bjk.bjkb j m,.

Stressful life situations can be
disruptive to our lives 

When negative things in life happen unexpectedly, or out of the blue, the consequences, aftermath or results can bring us either deep emotional pain, grief, or anguish, or flood us with anxiety, paranoia or fear or perhaps fill us with anger, resentment, even revengeful thoughts.

During this time, we may have specific details to attend to, concrete plans to make, people to take care of, and a job that continues to demand a high level of performance from us, while also trying to sort out, understand and process our own feelings and emotions.

All of this combined can leave us feeling emotionally exhausted and overwhelmed mentally and physically.

Negative, unanticipated life events can feel like a random act that happened to us - making our lives feel Chaotic and out of our control

Because of the combined state of being overwhemed emotionally, mentally and physically, it is normal to have diffulculties trying to process your feelings AND simultaneously take care of the everyday life responsibilities that don't stop happening AND take care of the new and most likely urgent life circumstances requiring your attention that have occured because of the unexpected life event that has just happened. It is because of this combination of circumstances that the overwhelming, stressful feeling occurs. 

Talking through your feelings with a supportive and trained therapist who understands the brain and behavior will help you with this process.

Examples of Life Situations that can be upsetting 

Receiving an upsetting health diagnosis involving your life or a loved one and being unsure what to do or how to prepare

Becoming a caregiver to an aging parent and having to juggle new responsibilties and duties that are stressful 

Having to deal with any new transition- moving to a new town, starting college, starting a new job, losing a job, having or losing a baby, starting over with a new family or second marriage, raising kids when there is a change in their behavior   

Dealing with the loss of someone who was special to you, family member or friend, beloved pet, or dealing with the end of a relationship, in marriage, among family members or in friendship    


Trying to resolve any conflict in a relationship between someone you care about or have to interact with in on going basis, whether its related to your profession, personal life, volunteer activity, part time job, school, neighborhood or community,

You don't need a "mental health diagnosis" or a referral from a dr to benefit from talking to a counselor during one of these times in your life, just an openess and a willingness to talk  

First allowing ourselves the freedom to express an emotion - to cry, yell, shout, whatever we need to do to get our feelings and thoughts out without feeling afraid of being   judged, censored, criticized or blamed for expressing them.  

Processing Emotions also means trying to make sense and understand what often feels like confusing or contradictory thoughts. When we are stuck in emotion, we are unable to fully understand what we are feeling, or the reasons for our behavior or actions. When we allow ourselves to explore our feelings and thoughts free of biased, negative labeling of our behaviors, free of guilt for our decisions or feelings, then we can feel free and unburdened to fully problem solve.    

Sorting through our feelings helps us process our emotions so they don't dominate our thoughts and control our actions, so we can organize our thoughts in our mind in a way that lets us go back to a more accurate method of problem solving before the unexpected life event happened.

bottom of page